When it Rains it Pours

I had every intention of packing me and the kids up and moving cross country with them. Until I found my Power of Attorney the Ex left. I do not have the ability to clear our military housing. Which now means he can dick me around and make me stay. Yeah I could still pack up and go, but then I could not afford rent. All the BAH would be going to an empty house, instead of giving me $1275 to cover a place for me. How much can go wrong before something goes right?